Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Monday, July 21, 2014

Give It A Try! (Originally posted as Family is the Most Sustainable Form of Energy )

Everything around us has to be green, recycled or sustainable. What I see expressed in a lot of families is that someone else cooks their food, from fast food, to frozen waffles, to school lunches, to prefab meals eaten in front of the tv. I do not believe this is helpful and it certainly isn't wholesome. Sometimes these fast food meals and even the ever more market driven school meals are marketed as wholesome because they have some fruit in them or some cooked milk or because the packaging is 33% post consumer. I am not saying that the fast food folks and the usda school meals aren't trying to offer more wholesome choices, but they can only go so far as their marketing will work.I am also thankful for our school lunch programs for those kids who do not get food of any kind at home

When I was a kid (admittedly in the last millenium) In our public school we had an amazing soup once per week. It was tomato and cabbage based, cooked slowly all night with meaty soup bones and lots more veggies added. It was served with a hand made roll that had raised all morning on the counters in the kitchen, the aroma of which was the only advertising the lunchroom ladies needed to get us there. We were fairly mutineeing by the time they were done! Because it was the south, there was also buttered cornbread. For desert, we had canned peaches. Now all of those foods have gone out of vogue and most kids would be too cool to eat this in front of their peers. We knew all about cool in my day too, but we came from homes where our moms really cooked. Layered salads, rich soups, stews and casseroles, fruit with whipped cream and milk or at our house, sweet tea to wash it down with. It was good food eaten at the table with our siblings and our parents. It tasted much better some times because the topics of conversation were better. Good report cards, getting the yard cut or the windows trimmed out. There were times when sad things had happened, when there was moral failure, disagreements between parents and kids. These meals were seasoned with blandness and dryness, regardless of how wonderful they'd been moments before the negative announcement.

Today, our families are so fragmented that there seems nothing sustainable about them. Even my home, where we have made the sacrifices to educate our children at home and to limit outside activities to church and one or 2 extracurricullar activities per year. We try very hard to have the bulk of our day sharing education, ideas, debate and agreement as well as wholesome, unprocessed home grown food and herbs. We try to find what we need nearby and not spend a lot of time getting places and buying foods that have travelled thousands of miles to get to us. Even then, with our family being intentionally zealous of our family time and our meal times, it is a rare day that at least one person is not grabbing a sandwich on the run to get to a meeting somewhere.

What about those families who haven't given an intentional thought to sustainable family living? I think they could gradually change. Lets start with the frozen waffles. Rather than go to the store to buy them. The family could buy good freshly ground flour, excellent oils, fresh eggs (or better yet grow your
own) a good whole foods cook book such as Nourishing Traditions. Then, one or two Saturdays per month the family could gather in their jammies for juice and waffles. One team could juice apple, carrot and ginger while the other family made the whole wheat waffles. The waffle team will make enough to have 2 or 3 meals worth, left over. This family is all hands on deck contributing to the health, entertainment and enjoyment of the family and enough forthought has gone into it to freeze waffles to throw in the toaster several times next week. This will provide a number of healthy, minimally packaged, very sustainable meals for this family. It can also save a lot of money if the leftover waffles cause the family to drive past McDonalds without stopping.

Something similar can be figured in for dinner several nights per week with extra meat or veggies going into the pot for lunches later in the week. Prep time, cook time, meal time are all valuable family time. The leftover lunches will have much less msg, fat, and salt than the fast food lunch it most likely replaces.

I hope that someone will try something like this. Turn off the tv. Put away anything that rings, vibrates or requires ear buds. Sit whereever you are comfortable and have a meal. Let people talk. Even little people, even people whose hair is painted a funny color or who do not like to talk. Let everyone have his voice in between the bites of the food that was prepared at home ...with love and care.

Try this for a while and let me know what happens.

God bless you!

our fruit bowl with labels still on

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Happy New Year! (Originally Written 1/1/10)

I have loved every view of this creation that I have been privileged to see. I have been blessed to see several European countries and a couple of Latin American countries. My family has lived on two different Islands, on two mountain ranges and many choices in between. I have even lived on a floating log raft off the coast of an uninhabited island in Alaska for three years. I love living in the West. I love Alaska, Montana, Colorado, New Mexico and other places where there are still open spaces and where a pair of white sneakers would be doomed in moments. Though, I choose to live in the West, my roots are tapped deep into the red clay soil of the Appalachians. I was born in North Carolina and grew up in the mountains of N.E. Alabama.




Several generations of both sides of my family scratched out a living from among the Jemson weed and the sassafras of those fragrant mountains. When I go back, the odors stir something almost feral in me. When I drive up into those tangled hills, I can fancy myself a woman from a bygone generation with some nostalgic name, trying to keep alive a laying hen and a cow when the clay and sawbriars, the possums and foxes, and the creeping moss all conspire to erase any trace that I have even been here. I know this is the way it was for my ancestors. My grandmothers and great grandmothers waged war against the very earth that sustained them. The tales are rich with heartache. Still births, rabies, the assaults of axe, adz, thief and war all served to keep my foremothers on their knees and to kindle that deep, far away sadness that lingers in the eyes even of the century faded photos in my mother's home.The men had it hard, working through injury, illness and hunger to keep body and soul together, but it was the women who were most intimately acquainted with the bonds that heartache ties between a person and the ground, between blood, sweat and dirt. Today, amid the e-mail greetings and happy new years, I was tempted to write and ask, 2012? Here, at my house it is still 1929! I was encouraged in my thinking by my mother's insistence that the Great Depression has not ended in the hills of N.E. Alabama. After talking with her today, I decided to bring into my home some of the old traditions of Appalachia. For dinner we had black eyed peas, pork sausage, rice, collard greens and bread for sopping up the pot liquor from the collards. In the poverty and superstition steeped history of the Appalachians (probably brought over from the Scots and Irish) these items had great significance. Small things, like rice, peas, beans etc. represented coins and eating them on New Years Day insured lots of coins in the new year. Greens represented paper money. Eating pork (the meat from an animal that pushes forward as opposed to an animal that scratches backward ) would increase your likelihood of progressing in the new year rather than experiencing reversals.



Of course, being believers in the Lord Jesus Christ, my family (and my ancestors) cannot be superstitious. Even so, I decided to share the tradition today with my family. After I shared the ideas behind the traditions, we had a good visit about how wonderful it was that our faith was not in superstitions. We talked about how wonderful it is that Jesus loves us whether we are rich or poor. That the primary currency of blessing in the life of the Church age believer is the riches of Christ, namely, forgiveness, eternal life, life more abundantly, justification and all the other blessings and privileges that go along with being born again. I suppose, even deeper than the depth of root that my family has in the red clay of Appalachia, is the mighty tree of abundant eternal life that grows up from the crimson blood of our redeemer Jesus Christ. Tonight, whether you are on the high desert, the rain forest or the snowy mountains, whether you live in 2012 or are stuck in 1929, this precious heritage and shimmering future are yours for the asking. Don't know how? Just leave a comment with your e-mail address and I would love to share with you.



God bless you!



Lawana





Looking Up

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Family Traditions II

                      
                                This is a list of things we do that come from my husband's family.
  1. We put a cold cloth on our heads. It will cure anything from headaches to cancer!
  2. We get "hot stomachs" that can only be cured with ice cream.
  3. We make red gravy. Thanks Grandma!
  4. We eat mustard sandwiches for a tummy ache or indigestion.
  5. Work! Work! Work! (Okay, Grandma is a good example of this...we are still learning)
  6. We have the recipe for the world's BEST potato salad!
  7. Story telling.
  8. Trying to ignore something so it will go away. This one works also for everything from headaches to cancer , particularly if combined with #5.
  9. What moving of furniture ever happens can be blamed on the McGuffey/Canant  influence.
  10. We have a minimum daily requirement for sweets.
  11. Denial! If the car makes a weird noise, turn up the radio. If the gas gauge is low, don't look at it.
  12. The hanging out in the kitchen thing comes in on this side too.
  13. There is a constant conflict about cars. The McGuffey side loves them clean, shiny , without spot or wrinkle! 
  14. Gardening, though the gene somehow skipped Clint and went to me!
  15. Sweet tea!
  16. Hatred of pills.
  17. Three main food groups, fried potatoes, fried meat, fried veggies.
  18. The fall asleep when you sit down gene. (Possibly also associated with #5)
  19. Waddling, Only genetic descendents of the Canants do this one.
  20. The nose!

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Family Traditions



Here is a list of things my immediate family inherited from my folks.

  1. Keeping little things because they were Aunt So and So's
  2. Watching kittens for entertainment.
  3. Keeping old dogs too long.
  4. Singing aloud (This comes from my mom who sings to newborns from moment one).
  5. Playing scrabble. My kids have added other favorites.
  6. Going straight to the fridge when we enter Mom's or Auntie's house.
  7. Living around the table.
  8. Teasing.
  9. Rejoicing a lot, fairly quietly.
  10. Grieving well and fully and privately.
  11. Loving fiercely.
  12. Trying to say nothing if we can't say something good.
  13. Forgiving quickly.
  14. Being tolerant of mental/spiritual illness in our family.
  15. Calling a spade a spade.
  16. Saying I love you (Thanks S. for getting this started in our family!)
  17. Looking up at the stars any time they are bright and clear and singing "It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas" at the top of our lungs!
  18. Flexing our biceps and shouting, "Jump up on this and Crow!" (From Dad)
  19. Eating too much good food.
  20. Never rearranging furniture or doing yard work or washing cars.
My family is crazy and I love them very much.

Lawana